It’s hard, isn’t it?
You already know it is and nothing could’ve prepared you for it.
It’s is one of the hardest jobs you could have.
You’re given no promises, work 24/7 and are always required to be ready for a task.
Being a mother is often fraught with worry and concerns.
You’re drown with the doubts if you’re even doing it right.
What if you’re doing all the things completely wrong?
The thing to remember about being a mom is that there isn’t any right or wrong answer on what to do and what is right.
You simply need to find the right approach for you and for your child and keep with it.
However, that said, if you want to make sure that you are not only a much better, but also a much happier mom, then you might want to have a read through these 19 tips on things to keep in mind.
1. Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
One of the first things that you need to do when it comes to being a better mom is to stop comparing yourself to other mom’s out there.
Everyone is different and no two moms, or the approaches that they take are the same.
So, focus on yourself first.
2. Remember That Your Best Is Enough
Another common issue amongst mom’s is that they think that they are not enough for their family.
However, the thing is, your best is always enough.
If you are trying as hard as you can, even if you are not quite getting there, then that is always enough.
3. Never Forget To Take Care Of Yourself
When you are focused on your family, chances are that you are going to forget about taking care of yourself.
If you don’t take a little me time then you are going to start to feel burnt out.
So it is important to remember to take care of yourself.
Easy ways to do this include:
- Taking A Bath
- Going Out For A Walk
- Arranging A Meet Up With Your Friends Without Kids
4. Embrace The Simple Things
Children are simple creatures and whilst they will enjoy the presents and toys that you buy at the time, chances are that this isn’t going to be what they remember when they are older.
Make sure that you focus on the simple things, time together, family holidays etc.
These are the things that will matter to them and that will form a lifetime of memories.
5. Take Interest In Their Interests
Chances are that the things that your kids like are not going to be of much interest to you, but in order to show them that you care what they are interested in you should at least show some level of interest.
They will appreciate that they have someone to talk to about how excited they are.
6. Spend Time With All Your Children
It can be hard to make sure that you focus on all your children, however it is important that you spend time with them all separately.
Make a mom and kid date on a regular basis (maybe once a week for each) and focus yourself on them entirely.
We can promise you that they will appreciate the effort that you have made just for them.
7. Stop Spreading Yourself So Thinly
When you are trying to raise a family it is far too tempting to spread yourself as thinly as possible in order to get as many things done as possible.
Whilst this might mean that you get plenty of tasks done, what it also means is that you won’t ever put 100% into those things.
So, instead of spreading yourself thinly, instead focus on doing a few things well.
8. Give Your Kids Space To Fail
As a parent we want our kids to be happy and to feel content in their life.
This often means that we do our best to try and stop them from ever having to deal with disappointment and failure.
Whilst there is nothing wrong with wanting to protect your kids, you should always give them space to fail.
If they fail then they are going to learn and this is a valuable life lesson.
9. Allow Yourself Time To Feel Down
It is hard work being a parent and whilst it is fun and there is plenty to smile about, there are also times when you will feel down.
Don’t beat yourself up because you are feeling glum, accept that this is normal and give yourself time to feel that way.
10. Follow Your Instincts
There is no guidebook to making decisions when you are a parent.
In fact, sometimes you won’t know what the best thing is to do.
When this happens you are going to need to follow your instincts, trust your gut and go with what you think is right, chances are that it will be the right decision for you and for your family.
11. Make friends and talk to them
Who doesn’t love to have friends?
We know we do.
When you are a mom it can be isolating at times and you may even feel that you have no-one to turn to.
It is a really good idea to make a network of mom friends and feel comfortable to talk to them when you are feeling down.
Great ways to find other mom friends include:
- Mother And Baby Groups
- Online Forums
- Being Introduced By Other Moms
12. Have Fun
One of the best ways that you can be a good mom, as well as a happy one, is to simply have as much fun as possible along the journey.
Allow yourself the chance to be silly and let your hair down.
Your kids will enjoy their mom goofing around and you will feel pretty great inside too!
13. Create Some Family Traditions
Want to make sure that you feel as much of a family unit as possible?
If you do than one idea that you can try out is to create a family tradition.
These don’t have to be anything too big and elaborate, they simply have to be something that you all do together on a regular basis.
It creates a family bond and also will create some great family memories too.
14. Be Confident In Yourself
No-one knows your kids better than you do, so when you make a decision about them you should have faith that it is the right one.
Don’t doubt yourself, don’t wonder whether you did the right thing.
Have confidence in yourself and what you are doing.
After all, there is a good chance it will be right.
15. Get Outside
One of the worst things for your mood is being trapped at home and not going outside in the fresh air.
It is vitally important that you plan in some time to get outside, whether that is by yourself or with the rest of your family.
Exercise is not only great for your physical health, but it also gives your mental well being a much needed boost too.
16. Step Away From Technology
Technology is great and it is no secret that it is definitely making our lives easier, but the thing about technology is that it can actually take over your quiet time.
It is a really good idea to make sure that you step away from technology as often as you can.
Watch your kids play, chat with them, this will make you both feel happier.
17. Make Time For Your Partner
It is all too easy to forget about your relationship when you become a parent, so, another important thing to do is to make sure that you and your partner have some time together.
This doesn’t have to be something extravagant such as going away for a weekend together, sometimes it can be something simple.
Some great date ideas for parents include:
- Watch A Movie Together
- Order Take Away
- Play A Board Game
Listening is something that is incredibly important that we all do, however it is something that so many of us are unable to get to grips with.
Make sure that you are aware of how well you are listening to your kids, your partner and of course, to yourself too.
This can work wonders.
19. Understand That Your Kids Has Feelings Too
We all know that feeling when we get out of bed in the morning and feel that we have just got out on the wrong side.
We allow ourselves to feel glum, to feel cross and to feel frustrated for no good reason, why can’t we do the same for our kids?
Recognise that kids have feelings too and one day they might just be cross for no good reason.
Be The Best Mother You Can Be
These are just 19 ways to make sure that you feel better, happier and more successful as a mom.
Try them for yourself and see if you can be a much happier parent in the future.
Remember the mom you are today will be the mom that your child remembers forever.
Sometimes this can even shape their minds and personalities.
While they may fight and argue back against something you won’t allow, they may thank you for it in the near future.
Sometimes there’s only so much you can do so don’t blame yourself if you make a mistake with your kids.
Learn from failure and use it towards being more successful for parenting.